26 Acts of Kindness Day at The Frisch School

Oren ('16) created this logo for our Acts of Kindness Day;
the logo graced the homepage of The Frisch School's website yesterday

Last year, after the horror of the shooting at the Sandy Hook Elementary School in Newtown, CT, a Twitter hashtag #26Acts encouraged people to do 26 acts of kindness on December 26 in honor of the 26 victims of the massacre. We participated, blogging about the day here, and decided to repeat the experience this year, since it was such a moving one.

However, our Acts of Kindness Day took on a significantly deeper meaning because of a student's initiative. At the end of the last school year, Talia ('15) took a Twitter chat final in my [Tikvah Wiener's] class. Inspired by Ken Gordon of PEJE and JEDLAB, who speaks often about making connections and cultivating interesting relationships, I asked the students, for the final, to reach out to the authors of their outside reading books (provided the authors are still living; anyone who can get in touch with Shakespeare gets MAJOR extra credit). Talia had read An Invisible Thread by Laura Schroff, and she contacted Laura who wasn't able to get back to her until after our final. Nevertheless, the two began corresponding, with the result being Laura's speaking at Frisch on December 11, a few weeks ago. 

The entire student body as well as parents who had read the book heard Laura tell about her inspiring story: how she stopped one day on the street to take an 11-year-old boy named Maurice Mazyck out to eat, since he was homeless and hungry, and how 28 years later they are like mother and son. Laura's visit to Frisch moved us all.

When we were preparing for her speaking event, Laura mentioned her acts of kindness pledge, which she has posted on her website and is encouraging the public to participate in. Her acts are partly based on the activities she and Maurice particularly enjoyed doing when he was growing up, such as sharing meals and baking cookies. When I mentioned Frisch's Acts of Kindness Day and said we would incorporate An Invisible Thread's acts of kindness pledge into it, Laura immediately decided to spend the day with us. But she brought a surprise: Maurice! 

What better way to kick off an Acts of Kindness Day
than with Laura Schroff and Maurice Mazyck,
whose relationship is based on an act of kindness?

The excitement in the auditorium was palpable as Laura entered the room with her surprise guest, and students saw that it was Maurice, whom they had only seen in a video the day Laura initially spoke at the school. Thundering applause welcomed Maurice, as he ran down the aisles and high-fived the students. Then he and Laura spoke, telling of the profound impact acts of kindness have on people and the fact that we don't know how our moments of compassion can help or save a life. 

Students were so excited to meet Maurice and to see Laura again!
They had been so touched and inspired by their story.

We were delighted that Laura also brought her co-author Alex Tresniowski to Frisch to share our acts of kindness day. Alex, who wrote for People magazine for many years, covering human interest and crime stories, is now at work on a book about the unique love story of two Holocaust survivors. We can't wait to read that as well!

After the schoolwide address, we checked one item off of our acts of kindness list for the day: sharing a meal with someone we care about. Students in my junior English class, who had worked tremendously hard putting the day together, as well as the students in Ramp It Up, RealSchool's literacy program, ate breakfast with Laura and Maurice. 

Talia ('15), who got this WHOLE thing started with her email, Laura,
Maurice, and Rabbi Ciner pose in front of our McFrisch sign! 

Breakfast at McFrisch!

We created McFrisch, turning the conference room into a kosher McDonald's, since McDonald's was the restaurant Laura took Maurice to when she first met him. It was also a place they returned to often over the years. Thanks to Frisch's chef Kimberly Carey who made kosher egg McMuffins and Tator Tots for the occasion! For the rest of the day, we had students write on the McFrisch sign an act of kindness they had performed, and when Laura and Maurice left, we gave the sign to them.

At 10 am, the next part of the day got underway. Frisch parents Patty Borodach and Sari Schiff chaperoned students to a homeless shelter and an old age home. Last year, our acts of kindness were all on campus, but this year we wanted to go off site as well. Of course, the students are used to going off campus, on chessed [community service] trips, and Rabbi Josh Schulman, Frisch's Director of Chessed, had arranged for students to work with special needs children this week in Friendship Circle camp, something Frisch does every year at this time. 

We added to the chessed program with the trips to the homeless shelter and old age home, thinking some non-profits might be understaffed during Christmas week. The students proved very helpful at the old age home, where they were needed not only to visit the elderly but to do office work. The homeless shelter was a big success as well, with the YWCA Women's Shelter of Elizabeth telling us Frisch can return anytime. From the reaction of the students to the trip there, I think that may happen soon!

Going off site to do chessed, with our wonderful parent chaperones 

Esther ('15) makes this cute baby smile!

Eitan and Arianna ('15) play games with the kids at the shelter.
We collected educational games and donated them to the shelter when we came.

Ronit and Arianna have fun with the kids!

At a home for the elderly in Passaic!

Back at school, students were signing up to do acts of kindness and getting to hang with Laura and Maurice as they did so. Thanks to you both, Laura and Maurice, for signing books and taking countless photos during the day!

Students sign up to perform 26 acts of kindness 

Maurice and Talia

In preparation for the day, my junior English class, who has spent the semester learning about the American dream and how it sometimes fails, and my Hot Topics SIM CITY class, which has been busy creating a virtual world, got the chance to make the real America a kinder place. My juniors prepared the list of the 26 acts of kindness, basing it on Laura's acts of kindness pledge. Here are the acts we came up with:

1.      Hold the door for other people

2.      Be quiet during davening [ prayer] so others can pray

3.      Share a snack with your class

4.      Smile at a stranger

5.      Buy lunch for a friend

6.      Say ‘thank you’ to all staff

7.      Cheer up a sad friend

8.      Lend someone a pen/pencil

9.      Donate your change from lunch/ breakfast to tzedakah [charity]

10.  Help someone who is struggling with homework or a test

11.  Throw your garbage out when you’re done eating

12.  Help someone open their locker

13.  Say ‘sorry’ when you bump into someone

14.  Compliment somebody

15.  Start a conversation with someone in your grade you usually don’t talk to

16.  Write a nice note to someone

17.  Lend someone a sweater because it’s always cold in school

18.  Clean up after someone who left a mess

19.  Get your teacher a beverage of their choice

20.  Give your old notes to someone in a lower grade

21.  Expand your lunch table

22.  Call your grandparents

23.  Text your mom/dad you love them

24.  Do something nice for your sibling(s)

25.  Leave change in the copy machine for the next person

26.  Do something nice for yourself

Michele Gudis ('15) came up with the idea of having QR codes that you scan to give you a slide show of compliments. Here are the flattering things the class had to say to their fellow Frisch students:

1.      You look really nice today

2.      You look so pretty when you smile

3.      You’re a good friend

4.      All your friends worry they aren’t as funny as you

5.      You are the most charming person in a 50-mile vicinity

6.      You could pull off orange corduroy

7.      9/10 dentists agree you are the best

8.      Rumor has it Disney is basing their next cartoon on you

9.      You’re sweet as a can of artificially flavored diet soda

10.  The kid you passed on the street today wants to grow up to be just like you

11.  You’re funny. Like, LOL style

12.  Your hair looks great today; it also looked really good two days ago

13.  That song was definitely written for you

14.  Your cousins refer to you as the cool cousin

15.  Never change, you’re the best you

16.  Every country is jealous that you’re a citizen in this country

17.  Those shoes were a great call

18.  You deserve a piece of chocolate

19.  Your parents are more proud of you than you will ever know

20.  Today’s outfit = thumbs up

21.  You actually looked super graceful that time you tripped in front of everyone

22.  You did a really nice thing today

23.  You rock the gym uniform

24.  You’re wonderful

25.  If I had a golden ticket I would give it to you

26.  You doodle like Picasso

We really love #21!

The juniors also arranged the off site trips, made the McFrisch sign, contacted Google about changing its logo for the day to the one Oren created (Google never got back to us, but we like the big dreaming thinking!), drew artworks about kindness and cyberkindness, and created an exhibit about literary acts of kindness.

On the left is the QR code of compliments,
while the word doodle about kindness and the student-made take on cyberkindness
are in the middle

This is what we based our student-made cyberkindness poster on;
it's one of our favorite school posters!

My Hot Topics SIM CITY class was responsible for an exhibit to end racism, based on the book The Immortal Life of Henrietta Lacks, which depicts the awful effects of segregation and racism in early and mid-twentieth-century America. Maurice immediately took a picture under our End Racism sign.

The Hot Topics students also had fun converting the freshman lounge into a napping station and hair and manicure salon for the lunch periods of the day. After all, act of kindness #26 was "Do something nice for yourself."

Seniors Ben and Jacob set up napping stations for students to enjoy
during their lunch periods

If Google can have napping pods, why can't we?!

The freshman lounge became a spa for our Acts of Kindness Day

In the afternoon, we had the pleasure of having Frisch alumnus Ariel Sterman share with various classes the good work he's been doing. Have you heard of Good St.? Well, you should check it out:

GoodSt.org

Ariel and a group of friends at NYU have started this awesome organization, which has participants donate a quarter a day and then get to choose from a selection of two charities Good St. proposes, each of which addresses a particular cause of the day. Yesterday's cause, for example, was childhood obesity, and participants could choose to donate their quarter to a charity that teaches fitness and health to kids or to one that gets kids active and moving. 

We loved that Ariel shared the good he's doing in the world with our students and also showed them how to be entrepreneurial and proactive. Student-driven learning is something you know we're passionate about!

Ariel shows how Good St. funds get divided between the two daily charities

We love that Good St. gets donors engaged with the giving process

Seniors got to shmooze with Ariel about how to get a non-profit up and running

Maurice, Laura, and Ariel

The day wouldn't be complete without a video crew documenting it all. Thanks so much to Daniel, Oren, and Ayal ('16) who captured the day on film and are now working on a video about it. 

Maurice and Laura stop to film for the video crew

Our film crew (and me) with Laura and Maurice

Finally: there are really no words to describe the sadness and horror we feel over what happened in Newtown last year, and we still cannot imagine the pain and anguish that the parents and loved ones of the victims must live with. We can only offer our acts of kindness as a gesture to them, as an affirmation that despite the senseless violence and hatred that exist in the world, the majority of people in it, we believe, want to do and be good, and if there's a way to pay that good forward, we will do everything in our power to find it.

I mentioned to some of my colleagues and friends, after Laura's first visit to Frisch when I saw how moved the students were by her and Maurice's story, that if they are society's "rock stars," that is, if their story is the one having such a profound effect on people, then the world can't be such a bad place. 

"How wonderful it is that nobody need wait a single minute before starting to improve the world." 

               -- Anne Frank

Spread Kindness

Our First Student-Run App Making Workshops

Today two RealSchool members -- Benji Cooper ('15) and Amitai Cohen ('15) -- visited Ben Porat Yosef, an elementary school in Paramus, NJ, to give workshops in coding and graphic design. Together, the workshops were an introduction to the world of app making. Benji started with the sixth graders and taught them the basics of coding, while Amitai ran an app design workshop for the seventh and eighth graders. Then the kids switched.

Amitai and Benji planning their workshops

Planning for the day was fun, as Amitai and Benji had to consider what it would feel like to teach and be in a session. Of course, we focused on creating an interactive, learning-by-doing workshop, so the students would be able to truly experience coding and app design and emerge from the day with a rough iteration they can build on in the future.

Benji began his workshop with how he got started in programming: in the eighth grade, with a program called Scratch, which happens to have been created in one of our favorite places, the MIT Media Lab. Here's Scratch's creator in a TEDx talk:

Check out Scratch here!

As a high school freshman, Benji moved onto learning the basics of programming by learning to code on his calculator, and by tenth grade, he was coding on his computer. To find out more about learning how to code, check out this introduction to programming from the Khan Academy.

In his workshop, Benji used Python to teach the students six functions:

Benji taught the students how to write a line of text;
add numbers; create an array; and more

Benji also taught the students how to make a
line repeat 10X. Students quickly had the computers
repeating a line 10,000X!

An unexpected bonus: Benji got to practice his Hebrew language skills,
with a student who spoke only in Hebrew.

Amitati also began his workshop by explaining how he got his start, in graphic design and app making. Amitai's father is in graphic design, and Amitai always liked to draw. Once he got a computer, he took his drawing digital, since he loved the fact that he could iterate so much more easily -- he loved failing fast to fail forward! Amitai drew his own bar mitzvah logo and entered Frisch ready to put his design skills to use. He quickly did so for the school chessed [charity] program as well as for RealSchool. We've shared before Amitai's amazing designs and logos for us!

Amitai explaining his start in graphic design

Here's the Superfood logo Amitai made for
RealSchool's Food Day program

Benji's workshop focused on the basics of coding, something kids can instantly see is important in app making. Amitai had to explain to students how important the design process is in app creation, but after doing so, the kids got busy designing a logo and three pages of their apps. Shira Ackerman, BPY's wonderful education technology director, had prepped all the students the day before, asking them to brainstorm an idea for an app they'd like to build. They spent the workshop time further iterating their ideas.

Amitai ideates with BPY middle schoolers

Morah Shira, BPY's edtech director, brainstorms with students

Amitai's workshop also included time for students to present their app ideas:

BPY students were poised and articulate during their presentation time.
They're ready for the business world!

This group's app is called Language Learner. . . 

. . . and this group also created an app that helps in
speaking a foreign language: it translates
what you say into the language you choose.

This group created a game out of the information they learned
about Egyptian history in their Social Studies class

We were really impressed by the fact that students created apps that helped increase and deepen learning.

Students also had time to reflect both orally and in written form on what they had done. We loved one student's response: he liked learning how much technology was capable of doing and the fact that it enabled him to be so creative.

We loved that students were so engaged in both of the workshops' activities, and we found the kids articulate, poised, and enthusiastic in their presentations. We were also deeply admiring of the students' creativity, genuine interest in learning, and ability to assess and comment on their peers' work. 

The middle schoolers asked Morah Shira if they could continue to work on both coding and app design even once the day was over. We're so glad that Benji's and Amitai's workshops sparked a desire to deepen learning in the BPY students, and we loved the opportunity to have students teaching students. Peer learning: it's the way to go!

Social Entrepreneurship attends a Lean Impact Summit

RealSchool has been busy with so many different projects that we haven't had time to update our blog recently, but we're catching up, and in chronological order, we want to share what we've been up to.

Our Social Entrepreneurship team at the Lean Impact summit!

First, on December 5, the Social Entrepreneurship team attended the Lean Impact summit in NYC. Frisch English teacher Rabbi Daniel Rosen chaperoned, and we enjoyed his droll observations about the day:

In summary, first we went to the Coffee Bean and Tea Leaf on Bleeker. That was nice. Then, the first part was about funding.

The Social Entrepreneurship team enjoyed meeting the conference organizer Leeanne Pittsford, who gave them some tips about how to refine a project we're working on and will be pitching soon ;). The first thing Ronit Langer ('15) texted us from the conference was that in order to do something, "you've got to get out of the building." We couldn't agree more. 

Ronit also shared the following ideas she learned at the conference about social entrepreneurship:

Know your audience: be specific

Know your product: a service or solution to a problem

Is there demand?

Get rid of assumptions about everyone

Get young people

Find the root of the problem

Experiment

Find stories and use data

Deal with poverty: half the world that's not poor should want to get other half not poor

Find new ways to solve old problems

Build-measure-learn cycle, proposal-grant-execute-follow-up: takes a long time

Program can be started in as little as 9 weeks

Entrepreneurs pitched their ideas to the judges
and participants at the summit.
Judges critiqued pitches and gave tips on refining
presentations and business ideas.

A lot of the ideas the conference espoused are ones we value in RealSchool: rough demo-ing; failing fast to fail forward; learning by doing; believing in youth.

The RealSchool members also discovered the power and fun of networking, enjoying meeting young entrepreneurs, including Megan O'Connor from Pencils of Promise, an organization that two juniors at Frisch have brought to the school.

The students also kept hearing about Eric Reis' book The Lean Startup, which we immediately ordered and are now passing around in RealSchool.

All in all, the Social Entrepreneurship team got out of the building and got a lot out of the day!

Blurring the Lines Between Work and Play

We've posted before about social scientist Mihaly Czikszentmihalyi's thoughts on flow, a state of being where one is challenged and engaged because they're in the process of solving a tough problem, without being overwhelmed by the task of doing so. Czikszentmihalyi has said that most often people reach a state of flow at work, and Daniel Pink points out that in a study, those who were denied that feeling of flow in their work, after two days, began to show signs of generalized anxiety disorder. That's a pretty compelling finding.

Czikszentmihalyi goes further. Pink reveals that thirty years ago, the social scientist wrote, "There is no good reason to believe any longer that only irrelevant 'play' can be enjoyed, while the serious business of life must be borne as a burdensome cross. Once we realize that the boundaries between work and play are artificial, we can take matters in hand and begin the difficult task of making life more livable." (Qtd. in Drive, 128)

Pink also quotes Czikszentmihalyi on how children "work" and "play":

"A little kid's life bursts with autotelic experiences. Children careen from one flow moment to another, animated by a sense of joy, equipped with a mindset of possibility, and working with the dedication of a West Point cadet. They use their brains and their bodies to probe and draw feedback from the environment in an endless pursuit of mastery.

Then--at some point in their lives--they don't. What happens?

'You start to get ashamed that what you're doing is childish,' Csikszentmihalyi explained.

What a mistake. Perhaps you and I--and all other adults in charge of things--are the ones who are immature. . . . Left to their own devices . . . children seek out flow with the inevitability of a natural law. So should we all." (128)

We need to make school a place where students are in a state of flow and where they feel like the boundaries of work and play are blurred!

Superfoods on Thanksgiving: Pumpkin Muffins

Talia Schabes in the Health and Environment team is getting us ready to enjoy some superfoods this Thanksgiving. Here's her family's recipe for pumpkin muffins. Thanks, Talia!

Wholesome pumpkin muffins

1.5 cups whole wheat flour
3/4 raw sugar
1 tsp baking powder
1 tsp baking soda
1/4 tsp cinnamon
1/4 tsp salt
1/4 cloves
1/2 cup oil
16 oz pumpkin purée

Topping mixture
1 tsp cinnamon
1tsp raw sugar
1 tsp chia seeds
1 tsp flax seeds
1 tsp hemp seeds

Preheat oven to 350 degrees
Fill muffin liners
Top muffins with mixture
Bake for 15-20 minutes

Click here for a link to pumpkin's nutritional facts!

More from "Drive": Performance Goals vs. Learning Goals

Look at what Daniel Pink has to say about mastery in Drive:

If you believe intelligence is a fixed quantity, then every educational and professional encounter becomes a measure of how much you have. If you believe intelligence is something you can increase, then the same encounters become opportunities for growth. In one view, intelligence is something you demonstrate; in the other, it's something you develop.

The two self-theories lead down two very different paths -- one that heads toward mastery and one that doesn't. For instance, consider goals. [Carol] Dweck [a psychology professor at Stanford University] says they come in two varieties -- performance goals and learning goals. Getting an A in French class is a performance goal. Being able to speak French is a learning goal. "Both goals are entirely normal and pretty much universal," Dweck says, "and both can fuel achievement." But only one leads to mastery. In several studies, Dweck found that giving children a performance goal (say, getting a high mark on a test) was effective for relatively straightforward problems but often inhibited children's ability to apply the concepts to new situations. For example, in one study, Dweck and a colleague asked junior high students to learn a new set of scientific principles, giving half of the students a performance goal and half a learning goal. After both groups demonstrated they had grasped the material, researchers asked the students to apply their knowledge to a new set of problems, related but not identical to what they'd just studied. Students with learning goals scored significantly higher than on these novel challenges. They also worked longer and tried more solutions. As Dweck writes, "With a learning goal, students don't have to feel that they're good at something in order to hang in and keep trying. After all, their goal is to learn, not to prove they're smart." (119-120)

Now consider this blog post on how project-based learning leads to mastery:

How Project-Based Learning Develops Drive and Mastery